Transcript of Breaking The Cycle of Trauma 💛
Spark Growth
0:00I'm someone that's exploring the idea of0:02being becoming a mother.0:03>> Yeah.0:03>> And it's petrifying cuz I don't want to0:05mess it up.0:07>> Uhhuh. You will. Don't worry about it.0:08>> Yeah. That's the thing.0:10>> No matter how much healing you have, it0:12seems like you're still going to mess it0:13up.0:14>> When you say you're petrified,0:16you're very scared, right? Here's how0:18I'm interpreting it. I could be wrong.0:22And you tell me. Okay. You're not0:24petrified of the future. You're0:25petrified of the past. Stuff happened to0:28you that shouldn't have or stuff didn't0:30happen that should have. Would that be0:32accurate?0:33>> Yes.0:34>> Yeah.0:35And that's what you're afraid of0:37transmitting and perpetrating on your0:39children, right?0:41>> Yes.0:42>> You mind telling me how old you are?0:44>> 34.0:46>> How old were you when your mother and0:49father took on the job of getting to0:52know themselves0:54so as not to pass on their traumas to0:56you?0:57How old were you when they took that on?1:00>> In progress. I think they're starting1:03to.1:03>> How old were you when they started?1:05>> I'm 34 and I feel like they may be1:07starting now.1:07>> Okay. You're 34 and they're starting1:09now. What would it have meant for you if1:13your mother had asked the same question1:14you just asked me before you were born?1:18What would that have meant for you?1:20>> Not being scared to exist in my1:22household.1:23>> Yeah. It would have meant everything.1:25Yeah.1:27You've already given that gift to your1:28unborn children.1:31You got nothing to worry about.1:34You just keep doing it. A therapist once1:36said to me that if your parents gave you1:38this much and you give your kids this1:40much, you've done a great job.1:44But if you start asking those questions1:46now, you're doing the work already, you1:48read the right books, and there's not1:50that many you need to read, just a1:51[Music]
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