Transcript of Fearful Avoidance: To Start Healing, Learn To Do This
Heidi Priebe
0:00If you have a fearful avoidant0:01attachment style, the problem is that0:03you might be biased towards believing0:06that acquiring a super deep0:08understanding of yourself and other0:10people is enough for being able to0:12navigate intimate relationships0:13effectively. And it would be so nice if0:16it worked that way, but unfortunately,0:18it doesn't. Because the moment your0:20attachment system is triggered and your0:22fight or flight or freeze or fawn0:23responses come online, your body does0:26not care how many psychology textbooks0:28you've read. It is going to react from a0:30place of pure instinct. So, the skills0:33for healthy relating have to be built in0:35the trenches, in the moments where you0:37get activated or deactivated, and you're0:40able to take a beat, choose a different0:43response, and allow your body to log one0:46more memory of a time when you were able0:48to navigate a high-stakes situation with0:51grace and with self-forgiveness. And0:54that is where your true root to healing0:57begins.
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