Transcript of When Your Brain Needs to Win the Argument (Even When You’re Wrong) 🧠🥊
Trevor Noah
0:00I didn't know that for an ADHD brain,0:02for the most part, not all brains, but0:04for most ADHD brains,0:07arguments are fun. Yes. Coercive cycle0:10of interaction. There's a term for it.0:12>> Coercive cycle of interaction. Oh, I0:14love this.0:14>> by your coercive behaviors, and this is0:16what we teach in behavioral parent0:18management training. Another plug for an0:19evidence-based intervention for ADHD.0:21[laughter]0:22So, in behavioral parent management0:24training, the first step is teaching0:26parents about the coercive cycle of0:28interaction, and how they're kids are0:30reinforced to continue arguing because0:32they eventually get what they want, and0:34parents are reinforced to be more0:35punitive because they eventually get0:37what they want. So, when you get when0:38you've done that as a child with your0:40parent, and then you get into a0:41relationship, and you're like, "I can0:42prove that I'm right. I can get you to0:44see that the way I'm thinking is the way0:46you should be thinking." And you just0:47continue to engage in this this spiral0:49until you win, and the other person is0:51pissed or they gave up cuz they're0:52exhausted.0:52>> they're they're exhausted most of the0:53time.0:54>> Cuz the ADHD person can keep0:56>> They can keep going a lot of times, and0:58you'll be like, "Can you just stop?" And1:00they're like, "No." So, instead of1:01telling them to stop, you'd give them1:04the positive opposite behavior, the1:05two-do behavior. So, instead of "Would1:08you stop talking?" it's "Can we take a1:10quiet moment?"
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